Originally posted on Candles online:
If a survey is conducted and people are asked “If God grants you one wish what would you pick?”, undoubtedly “A chance to revisit or relive the past (simply put a as Time Travel)” will the take the cake hands down. “Being invisible”, “Being filthy rich”, “Stay young forever” are few close contenders though 😁. What makes people cling to the past so much? Happy moments of past and regrets in present to say the least often make people wish badly if they could just once walk down the memory lane and relive & cherish and change the course of incidents if possible.
And I am no exception. I want to enjoy my childhood once again with my siblings, wish badly to be in school once again with my best pals, seek blessings of my revered teachers, pursue my hobbies more rigorously, be with my father when he needed me, take up science instead of commerce that could have helped me land in a job at this moment 😁😁 and I regret that decision till this date. Many more regrets and joys! Don’t worry, not going to list every minute detail lest it will be damn boring for you all 😉.
But two incidents, one from distant past and the other from recent past that still linger on my mind, while conscience always questions me – Why you were silent then? At this moment while mentioning about them I am imagining myself in those situations as a person who did something in her capacity that could have made at least a trivial change, but a change nevertheless:
- I was in college (2003), boarded a bus back to home. Three men boarded the same bus. The bus was already crowded. They stood next to me. Far from being decent or civilised as they looked and sounded, asked me about a particular destination and when I answered them, they started making fun of me. I was numb. Not a word uttered. And I was not the only one they were taking digs at, they poked few more people in an obnoxious manner. But everyone was silent till they got down. And “Everyone” included me too and that’s my REGRET.
- When I was in India this year, enjoying my vacations I witnessed a horrific incident of child abduction. As I was leaving a market premise along with my brother, his wife and my daughter we saw a Banjara (nomad) lady handing over a kid to a man who was waiting on a scooter. At the very first sight it was clear that that the child doesn’t belong to her and our doubts were more less confirmed when we saw the number plate of the vehicle. It was blank for obvious reasons. It all happened in a fraction of seconds and I was left pondering over ” shall I confront them”, ” shall I alert the police patrol team in that area”. But alas I just kept thinking instead of initiating the action and that’s my REGRET.
I am sure we all have such regrets in our lives where a small voice made might have been heard, a petty action taken might have made the difference and our sheer incapacity or inaction forced the world trend the improper ways it is already on. Think about it! Well that brings to my mind one my friend’s important quote:
(A Candles Online Property)
We are living in times when our silence is taken as our acceptance, our decency is taken as our incapacity or weakness, our inaction is a registered Yes and encouragement to the wrongdoers. We are living in times where a concrete demarcation is necessary between “Apparently ” and “Certainly ” for people to understand ” Clearly“. Hence it is important to Act for what you believe and avoid Regrets and your journey to old memory lanes should be a joyful ride 😊.