“If everyone discharge their duties selflessly then the burden of responsibilities will diminish by a multiple fold on the society.”
“Perfection isn’t about lack of flaws. Instead it is about the maturity to accept them and continuously strive to better oneself. It’s about evolving & emerging.”
“Litmus test for a human character – how he treats weak & deprived in the absence of audience; how he handles criticism and humor directed towards him especially when takes the cake of mocking others”
**Something I wanted to write since a long time.
Originally Posted On Candles Online
Can the knowledge of a particular language be the sign of intelligence of a person? Can the fluency in a particular language be an indication of one’s educational background and character certificate? Sounds gibberish, right?
Well not completely. This is just a reflection of how the attitude of people in Indian subcontinent has shaped up over decades now. Fanatic love for “English” is an IT thing (rather a HIT thing).
People getting mocked for not being able to converse in English at native level. People finding themselves to be in a fix, out of place, losing confidence, nurturing low self esteem and inferiority complex are direct of shoot offs of our fetish for one particular “International Language” English. We (A majority) somehow have come up with the terms that mastering this particular language is a ticket to a better treatment in masses ; a person who can speak English impeccably is a genius and if some accent is sprinkled he/she is already a star – knowledge, character, education, skill doesn’t really matter. Look at the wannabe insta stars, you will know what I mean .
Let me share few examples/ incidents that I came across or heard:
*I heard people praising someone who got expert skills in English “Kya angrezi bolta hai, wah!” (He speaks so good in English) never mind the grasp on subject matter is ZERO.
*My friend once shared with me his experience at his daughter’s school. The poor child faced the ire of the teachers because she wasn’t able to converse in a free flow manner in English and was comfortable in her mother tongue. Such a shame!
*If a person belonging to a foreign land (read West) speaks in any of our regional language though broken we go gaga over the attempt. “So Cute” is the expression that follows our excitement (not referring to Donald Trump saying Swamy Vivekanand ). But when the tables turn and someone among us try to speak the broken English we brand him “Illiterate” literally. What double standards!
*Parents insisting kids to speak in English (leave aside the schools) even at home (I strongly believe there are other circles/ places/ avenues where English can be practiced), it’s a matter of fame while on the other hand more and more parents are coming out saying “our kids can’t speak/ read/ write our mother tongue” almost without any sense of attachment. I am at loss of words!
*People refraining from talking in the language they are comfortable with just not to be jeered by peers. How sad!
Well I can go on and on with such illustrations not so great to put forward for any country / society. In short we are focussing on the mode/ language of instruction and completely ignoring the importance of effective communication or the content intended to be delivered.
Talking about our overtly attachment with this particular language, light must be thrown at helm of affairs in other parts of the world, countries which we see as synonyms for “Development, technology, power, economy” and every possible positive superlative. I live in Belgium, have been to France, Germany, Netherlands; Have heard the social speeches of public figures from Japan, China and the counties aforementioned. No one carries a chip of shame up their sleeve while talking in their respective mother tongue. On contrary they are proud. And this sense of pride is seen at every level. A public representative is not mocked by the citizens for his or her lack of grip on English. Preference is given to learning rather than belittling their own language (I have a friend who is a professional English language trainer working with bureaucrats, diplomats, parliamentarians etc. SP this is for you ❤) A complete inverse picture of what we see in the sub continent. We have this mind boggling equation, English = Knowledgable/ Educated. On the other hand mother tongue is given the utmost importance right from the beginning in all those countries mentioned above. Schools that lay foundation and aid development of a child from the grassroot level emphasise specifically on the country’s mother tongue. If you are a foreigner in these lands you got only two choices either integrate with them via their language or be ready to pay exhobirant charges for translation be it education (international schools are pretty expensive) in schools or otherwise. I myself have paid extra charges for translator service for driving test because of my incapacity to understand French fast 😁 . In a way they are promoting their language by using simple economics, period! Priority to the mother tongue is something we must learn from these countries.
Why? Language is a part of what and who we are. It’s an integral part of our history, heritage and culture. Precisely ROOTS! Can a tree stand still and upfront if it is alienated from the ground, if roots are uprooted? How meaningful it would be to have mastered a foreign language and yet not knowing the homeland? If we distance ourselves from our history there’s no way our future generations will know the past and future is definitely not bright.
I may sound as a fanatic talking over the clouds but a study is available that proves that for kids who start learning their and in their native language cognitive developments are better. Expression and communication comes easy to them. Better understanding of curriculum and positive attitude towards school are few more points to count. They feel more at home. This is just a bird’s eye view.
But unfortunately learning in native language may not be possible for everyone owing to the small social village world has become and constant migration of people from one place to another. It all comes to availability, feasibility and choice.
I want to reiterate that my argument is not against any language but the meaningless romanticism we have inbred within ourselves about a particular language belittling our own identity. I myself went to a school that had English as its medium of instruction but my teachers never made their students feel bad about their shortcomings in a language and most importantly my school had my mother tongue (Telugu) as one of the subjects and my parents wanted me to learn it. At home too we had an environment where we spoke to each other in our native language. For us English was just a language which we needed for a better exposure outside the safe cocoon of our home/ town/ country ( we were not aware or exposed to the other world languages at that time). English was (is & will be) required to excel in any competitive exam or other podiums. And we simply took it that way. Rather the entire emphasis was on developing thoughts, transformation of a person to personality, ethical behaviour, earning dignity and respect. In short the purpose of imparting education was fulfilled to the core. It was not washed down by a meaningless glorification of a foreign language because it is spoken by “Fair Skinned” (another obsession of my land sadly).
A petty request: I am not out of “Parenting Mode” since last week’s article was published 😉, excuse me for that and kindly bear with me. Parents please make sure that you encourage kids talking (the least) in native language. If you could impart the knowledge ( reading & writing) of native language nothing beats that. Remember their thoughts have to be eloquent and it’s never about which language they chose to communicate.
* Teachers: Please don’t shame any kid for their inability to converse in English. It’s just a language and can be worked upon. Debates, workshops, group activities, essay writings and lot more. Different tools and hard work can achieve everything including a grasp on the language but if the confidence gets shattered that might be something beyond repair.
* Schools / Authorities: Please focus on giving a buoyant support to the local language. Its a way to save our heritage and culture.
* Everyone: Learn as many languages as you can but remember your mother tongue is your inner feelings you share with your mother (loved/ closed ones), that comfort is the ultimate. And if Englishmen are speaking in English, it’s their own so nothing so great about that!
And here I rest my case.
*** Writing this post in English because it does have a mass reach and I am not against English but our shallow thinking process of trying to compare languages.
“Failures, Sorrow, Loneliness – If introspected deeply are the greatest teachers of the world. From polishing the strengths of inner self to introducing the true colours of the deceitful world around, they impart the knowledge of life’s worth”
“Pink Slip” that left many employees pale. A heart felt / heartbreaking saga of every employee who gets / got laid off in the wake of of disastrous economic turmoil making employers think only about “costs incurred” and ways to “Cut” them off:
“Spend time with us” parents urged and I said “Not now, please understand”.
“We need a change” wife requested and I said “Not now, please understand”.
“Play with us” kids pleaded and I said “Not now, please understand”.
“Let’s relive moments together” friends demanded and I said “Not now, please understand”.
“When would you live” questioned the mirror and I said “Not now, please understand”.
“When would you pause and relax” begged my body and I said “Not now, please understand”.
When appraisals and appreciation eluded time and again I said to myself “May not be now, please understand”.
I rallied against time only to be in time in the chase of never ending deadlines, explaining to myself “This is how it is, please understand”.
When you ceased to care for me in your merry moments I still stuck around as a loyal hoping that you would understand.
But when depression engulfed in the times of distress you chose to severe and chuck me out and asked me to “Please Understand”.
For you it was always a relationship of profits and dividends but for me it was a cushion to my dreams which you would never understand.
Now I am left with questions to answer, hunger to satiate, battles to be fought, life to be rebuilt which you would never care to understand.
Still I would give you a benefit of doubt as I understand the mechanism of markets but how far will this log of rules go to dictate human relationships and humanity, can anyone make me understand?
Has the world been reduced to just a slump of Demand and Supply theories? A balance sheet of losses and gains? Just plain black and white and nothing in between? Why is this Pink scaring me today? Can anyone please make me understand?
Originally posted on Candles Online:
Time – an omnipresent factor that runs our entire life. Birth is recorded so is death in measuring units called hours, minutes and seconds which is basically Time. Past, present and future all have yardstick of years, months and days, it’s nothing but Time. We have bad times and good times, registered as moments and memories but Time nonetheless. Time never stops and ceases. If every matter is made up of cells then every matter is run by Time. Anyone from 1980’s era in India and who have seen Mahabharat on national television would understand and relate to “Main Samay Hoon” (I am The Time) pretty much summarising what I said 😁.
There’s a saying “Time once spent can’t be earned back unlike money” and it’s a fact to the core. We all have moments in our lives, where we dwell on our past and constantly wish how different the course of events could have been. A different action, a different desicion, a timely intervention, sometimes a delay perhaps could have chalked out an entire different picture to be enjoyed or cherished now.
Certain incidents/ desicions I regret the most in my life : I could have chosen computer science over commerce and that would have helped me fetch a job here in this foreign land, something I dearly yearn for. I could have done a certified professional course that could have added some volume to my dull CV. I could have had a bit prolonged career before I my wedding.
More or less I have more regrets concerning my professional decisions for I am unemployed for a decade now, something I have mentioned time and again in my write ups. Pondering over and over on those moments over a period of time now (see Time, I told you 😁) haven’t brought me any solace but some sense to say the least. Wondering how?
When I am lost in my search for answers in my past, my idleness in present questions me “you can’t anyways undo your past, what is your stand in present to make you stand in future? Why you are unearthing melancholy when your smiles and peace lie in discovery and exploration. When you have ideas, share them. When you have plans put them into action and see the drama unfold.”
Sounds too preachy right? But this is a reality I am living in. My tussle with time is on a different level. Every morning while busy in chores I think about my past, when done with morning routines my urge to relax myself overpowers my will to write blogs (in this context I thank Candles Online to give me impetus strong enough to write at least once a week 😁), paint or at least finish cleaning up of house (😁 but don’t jump to the conclusion that we love in shabby and unhygienic conditions, its just that it might not be presentable round the clock) to an extent that I end up procrastinating things on more than one occasion and by the evening I participate in a race against time to finish off pending chores before hitting the bed and on bed I toss planning to start a fresh day with renewed determination to make my own identity and announce it to the world and my family and again I loiter in the past (recent one though 🤣🤣) thinking I shouldn’t have wasted My Precious Time for once it’s gone it’s gone forever. It’s a cycle you see!
And it’s much vicious than that of poverty and complicated than that of a life cycle. Once you are a “procrastinator” then you certainly need a greater push to get out of that habit. Not yearly resolutions but we need a daily resolution to keep our “regret” mode at bay. And trust me my run is so on! 😁.
My Personal Realization: How I acted in past have strong reasons underlining them and thus they were apt then. My constant rant now can only earn me some sympathy sometimes but not useful anyways 😊. And I am not taking any or requisite amount of steps as an amendment, does it make sense?
So how often do you Procrastinate and regret? If you are like me, then join the club not to boast but to fight our bad habit and put our Time to a better use other than for dwelling and digging past for if its bitter it won’t be better now either.
Thumb Rule For Procrastination: You lose your right to complain if you don’t act on time or at all.
Remember this and march forward for past is so over, let it rest in peace 😁.
I don’t watch serials, those heavy make ups, constant conspiracies and over the top acting is not my cup of tea. I don’t watch reality shows either because nothing is real about them to be true and the jarring suspense music to reveal the eliminations or winners is a big let down. But anyways who cares about people like me 😁. To put it simple and straight, apart from few good movies to catch up and my favourite Mahabharata (Indian mythological drama) idiot box in my home doesn’t serve much.
So where do I get my daily dose of entertainment from, but obvious YouTube. I binge on YouTube. I don’t stick to a particular genre, taste changes according to my mood, mood in the family and mood of the country 😂. But the interesting part is that more than the videos I have kind of fetish to read the comments ensuing the video. The kind of comments I find there tells a lot about the different mentalities of people. I am listing a few according to my observation:
- Grammar Nazis: This category people are my personal favourites as I get to learn so much about the language leaving aside the topic in question 😂. One misspelled word, one misplaced word/ punctuation and we have them in action. It could be their command over the language or love for it that they can’t tolerate the mistakes in language, difference of opinions can be countered later.
- Forever Romantics: No matter what is the situation, how seriously people are involved in presenting their viewpoint I always came across a set of hopelessly (or shall we say too many Hope’s pinned 😉) romantic people who never ceases to try their luck in the comment section expecting a favourable response. “Hi Ma’am you are very beautiful, please call me at xxxxxxxxx”, “Hi can we be friends”, “I love you” – few examples how Romeos search for their Juliet on YouTube (or any social media platform for that matter).
- Family People: Stop! Before you jump to conclusions let me clarify literal translation won’t work here. These are the people who use cuss words using “relations” (you know what I mean, don’t want to elaborate further) in every sentence they state. It’s the way they express themselves, oppose opinions of others, they swear. It’s basically part of their grammar unfortunately.
- No words, only emojis: I think I don’t need further words to explain this 😁😁😁😁. Sometimes I get confused whom they are supporting amidst the threads of comments going on.
- Repeat mode on: Off late I have come across a new genre of people commenting on YouTube and they are the “Repeaters” . To emphasise their point of view or to get noticed or simply they have too much time (may be lack of it) they repeat their comment everywhere (in every reply, in every related video). They are not just repeaters but the most irritating group on YouTube.
- Promotion guys: Just like the forlorn/ forever romantics there’s a group which don’t cease to take up every opportunity to promote its agenda on videos that are least or not at all related to their business (literal and otherwise). There are people who promote their own channels, their business ideas, businesses and what not. I am still confused if I can call them intelligent or opportunists or desperate 🤔.
- The comparison brigade: Well, we find them in every sphere, in every walk of life – Never Happy. Always comparing things, people, situations. They are the epitome of pessimism to put it simple. For instance there’s a song playing and everything about that is simply amazing and everyone in the comment thread is praising it but the forever sworn unhappy people do mark their presence with their comments like “nah! It would have been better if it was sung by so and so”, “actor X would have been/is better than this actor Y”, ” things were better in our times”, ” song would have been better if recorded on Mars” and it continues 😂😂😂.
So these are few observations that I have made off late. You also might have few observations, suggestions or corrections for that matter to add. Feel free to drop them in “Comment” section 😁. I am waiting 😉.